Every time I have a conversation with a black male friend and I mention that I'm open to dating other races (across the sexes) and at first I'm applauded saying that is a good thing. Then what comes right after that, "As soon as you open yourself up, you're BLACK MAN will come into your life."
Excuse me? Did you hear what I just said? So, I decide to try something new and that means that as soon as I do that my ideal black man will come and sweep me off my feet.
Why is my ideal black and why are they male?
I'm tired of having people downplay things that I tell them OR gloss over them like I never mentioned it. I don't know whom I'll end up with (man, woman - I mean) I don't think about it. I just want someone that treats me well and has common sense, which you would think it would be easier to find since I have dated both men and women in my past but it's really not.
I did subscribe to the notion that my ideal was a black person and my preference would be black but I have come to the conclusion that it might not happen for me and I'm cool with that.
I just hate it when I'm open about something new and it's downplayed like I should be just "wait around" and my time will come eventually. Truthfully, if I was only into men I'd be upset especially black men because the state of black men these days leave little to be desired for me. That's a whole other post though, I'm not saying all black men are bad either just that the pickings are slim and I won't even go into black women in the South (the ones that like girls), they might be just as bad as the men here. Which is why I hardly ever date, I like to keep my sanity!
